so often we sit back on new years day or the days leading up to it thinking what is my resolution going to be this year...or maybe you don't really think about it but are asked the question enough times you are forced to think about it so that you have some answer for the next time you are asked.
I read this the other day it caught my eye and it was totally facebook status worthy so you may have seen it there but here it is again: "every year you make a resolution to change yourself. This year how about you make your resolution to BE yourself".
It is the truest of statements I think. Every year you make a resolution and it could be anything from going to the gym more, to being a better person, to being more understanding, to eating better, to having a larger bank account, whatever it is, it usually is some goal that in turn will change you.
I am not saying these goals are not good, they are if you see something in you that you feel needs to change, then work on changing it..but really you don't have to make these changes just at new years..you should be making attainable resolutions all year long. But that is a whole other rant.
Why make a resolution to change yourself. Why not make the resolution to BE yourself, to work at being yourself. Don't work on making yourself what you think the people around you want you to be but work on you, working on getting to know you, working on sharing who you are with the world, work on being you!
What would this world be like if everyone in it lived as themselves? lived out their convictions, lived out love, lived who they are and who they are intended to be instead of living the way which someone somewhere told them they should be living? What would it be like if we all lived as ourselves..you know that self that only gets out when you are in an intimate safe group of friends, where you let lose and you are yourself not trying to impress anybody else but you, not trying to be on your best behavior or whatever it is you try to be.
What would it be like if you were just you? I have said it before and I will say it again....I like you when you are just you! I like you more when you are who you are and not who you think the people around you want you to be!
Sunday, January 2, 2011
Monday, December 20, 2010
what do you do???
What do you do to hide?
we all hide in someway, some of us are just way better at it then others. Some people hide who they really are, or the heart that have because it is painful to show it, some hide it because it is embarassing, or it is a scarry thing to reveal. Some people hide as a way of running and not facing life on.
I have been guilty of all of these ways of hiding and more at different points in time and I am sure if you are honest with yourself, you have been too.
I am not as good as hiding as others those. I am not as good at running as others..somone always catches me. And I am Hthankful they do, because when I am running I don't always look up and see where I am running and often it is not in a good direction. And when I am hiding and I get found it is not always in the safest of places either.
what do you do to hide? why do you hide? where are you running? Look around you, where you are hiding is it really a safe place? look up where you are running to, are you running in a good direction? Or are you looking at self distruction, are you looking at more wounds from your running path or hiding place...just know from an expert it is never to late to come out of your hiding place, it is never to late to change your running path or directions. It is never to late to stop hiding or running from life. And another tip from someone who has learnt the hard way the longer you hide from it, and the further you run in a not so good direction the more bruises, scraps and gashes you will have to heal when you do finally stop running or hiding from this thing we call life.
When you come out from hiding from whatever you are hiding from, or you stop running from whatever you are running from..I cant promise it will be easy, actually I can promise it will be hard but it will be worth it. And I can promise amongst the hard times, the healing times, the crying times, the hurting time, the facing life face on times there will be some really good times to be had.
we all hide in someway, some of us are just way better at it then others. Some people hide who they really are, or the heart that have because it is painful to show it, some hide it because it is embarassing, or it is a scarry thing to reveal. Some people hide as a way of running and not facing life on.
I have been guilty of all of these ways of hiding and more at different points in time and I am sure if you are honest with yourself, you have been too.
I am not as good as hiding as others those. I am not as good at running as others..somone always catches me. And I am Hthankful they do, because when I am running I don't always look up and see where I am running and often it is not in a good direction. And when I am hiding and I get found it is not always in the safest of places either.
what do you do to hide? why do you hide? where are you running? Look around you, where you are hiding is it really a safe place? look up where you are running to, are you running in a good direction? Or are you looking at self distruction, are you looking at more wounds from your running path or hiding place...just know from an expert it is never to late to come out of your hiding place, it is never to late to change your running path or directions. It is never to late to stop hiding or running from life. And another tip from someone who has learnt the hard way the longer you hide from it, and the further you run in a not so good direction the more bruises, scraps and gashes you will have to heal when you do finally stop running or hiding from this thing we call life.
When you come out from hiding from whatever you are hiding from, or you stop running from whatever you are running from..I cant promise it will be easy, actually I can promise it will be hard but it will be worth it. And I can promise amongst the hard times, the healing times, the crying times, the hurting time, the facing life face on times there will be some really good times to be had.
This Time of Year
It is the Christmas time of year once again. It is a time of many celebrations and a time of stress, and a time where people can take the JOY of the season away. I am a people pleaser, so I will try to make everyone happy or comfortable or whatever the case is. Today I came to this realization that by trying to make everyone happy this holiday season I have been missing out! I have been stressing out! I have missed out on the JOY. Well not completely missed out on the JOY of it all but it has come pretty close.
There is this saying that I have heard that you will find JOY when you live your life like this; putting Jesus first then others then yourself. Somehow in all the bussle of trying to make people happy, make all christmas celebrations(which I want to be at, I dont want to miss them or the people at them) I have skipped a step. I have skipped the first step of putting Jesus first, putting him before the happiness of others and before myself. My priorities haven't been right. Funny how that seems to happen, funny how as I talk to people they have the same problem at this time of year, and really the stupidest part of all of it would be the fact that this holiday, this season all of these celebrations are celebrating the gift of himself.
It is time to stop and to celebrate, to celebrate family, friends, the year that passed but most of all the gift that has been given to us.
There is this saying that I have heard that you will find JOY when you live your life like this; putting Jesus first then others then yourself. Somehow in all the bussle of trying to make people happy, make all christmas celebrations(which I want to be at, I dont want to miss them or the people at them) I have skipped a step. I have skipped the first step of putting Jesus first, putting him before the happiness of others and before myself. My priorities haven't been right. Funny how that seems to happen, funny how as I talk to people they have the same problem at this time of year, and really the stupidest part of all of it would be the fact that this holiday, this season all of these celebrations are celebrating the gift of himself.
It is time to stop and to celebrate, to celebrate family, friends, the year that passed but most of all the gift that has been given to us.
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Dancing in the Rain
Sometimes life sucks! Sometimes life feels more then what you can take! Sometimes everything seems so confusing! Sometimes life seems so huge! Sometimes Life seems so happy! Sometimes the joy is overwhelming! Sometimes life feels perfect!
Sometimes life feels like a huge storm, and then there are times when you feel like you can see the end of the storm and then it rains a little bit more, or it even pours. Sometimes all it takes is a little bit more rain to knock you down to the ground and make you feel like you just can't take it any more, it feels like you can not take one more ounce of hurt, or ounce of anything for that matter...and that is when you have to, even if you feel like you are dying inside, stand up and learn how to dance in the rain.
Dancing in the rain can feel so refreshing, feel so lovely, it is when you are dancing that you will see that glimpse of hope, find that glimpse of joy.
So, get up and dance..try it..it is not easy, I never said it would be, I know..it is harder then it sounds, trust me I know. But get up and dance, dance through the storm.
Sometimes life feels like a huge storm, and then there are times when you feel like you can see the end of the storm and then it rains a little bit more, or it even pours. Sometimes all it takes is a little bit more rain to knock you down to the ground and make you feel like you just can't take it any more, it feels like you can not take one more ounce of hurt, or ounce of anything for that matter...and that is when you have to, even if you feel like you are dying inside, stand up and learn how to dance in the rain.
Dancing in the rain can feel so refreshing, feel so lovely, it is when you are dancing that you will see that glimpse of hope, find that glimpse of joy.
So, get up and dance..try it..it is not easy, I never said it would be, I know..it is harder then it sounds, trust me I know. But get up and dance, dance through the storm.
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Opinions
I have heard it said that when you submit to someone else's opinions you lose a part of yourself.
How true is this. We so often submit to someone else's opinions of who we are and how we should live, and when we do I believe that we lose a part of ourselves.
Now this being said I am sure this isn't always a bad thing, I think people are put into our lives to help us change, to mold us to help us grow to be better people, or achieve who we really are to be, to keep us on track in life, so submitting to some opinions can be good.
But those aren't the opinions that I am talking about. I am talking about the ones like..what you dont have five kids yet you are wasting your life? what you better get married now your clock is ticking? or the take that hat off, you dont wear hats in church? or what are you doing calling yourself a christian and sitting in a bar? or that isnt the proper way to talk to someone, or proper way to be, or proper way to do your hair..you get the point.
When you fold the things that make you, you, when you give in and say who I am isn't enough, I need to be more to impress this person or that person. when you take away parts of you for fear of offending the people around you, you are submitting to them, you are giving a piece of who you are to a garbage can so you can make someone else happy..is that really what you want.
You want to take your hand and put it in the garbage can to impress the people around you? you want to take your thoughts and throw them out because they dont fit the right box or what that person is telling you is the right box. Please dont throw yourself out. Dont sell yourself short, dont lose yourself to make people happy...cause I like yourself. I actually more then like it I love it..you being you makes life interesting.
dont submit to others opinions, dont lose yourself, dont lose your passion.
How true is this. We so often submit to someone else's opinions of who we are and how we should live, and when we do I believe that we lose a part of ourselves.
Now this being said I am sure this isn't always a bad thing, I think people are put into our lives to help us change, to mold us to help us grow to be better people, or achieve who we really are to be, to keep us on track in life, so submitting to some opinions can be good.
But those aren't the opinions that I am talking about. I am talking about the ones like..what you dont have five kids yet you are wasting your life? what you better get married now your clock is ticking? or the take that hat off, you dont wear hats in church? or what are you doing calling yourself a christian and sitting in a bar? or that isnt the proper way to talk to someone, or proper way to be, or proper way to do your hair..you get the point.
When you fold the things that make you, you, when you give in and say who I am isn't enough, I need to be more to impress this person or that person. when you take away parts of you for fear of offending the people around you, you are submitting to them, you are giving a piece of who you are to a garbage can so you can make someone else happy..is that really what you want.
You want to take your hand and put it in the garbage can to impress the people around you? you want to take your thoughts and throw them out because they dont fit the right box or what that person is telling you is the right box. Please dont throw yourself out. Dont sell yourself short, dont lose yourself to make people happy...cause I like yourself. I actually more then like it I love it..you being you makes life interesting.
dont submit to others opinions, dont lose yourself, dont lose your passion.
Who are you
you have a magnificint story, you have a lovely life wheather you know it or not. The question is though, are you living your life to make a difference?
Did you know that you are so important that you make a difference everyday?? There is always someone watching you, looking at you, looking to you. You are always influencing someone whether you know it or not it is true.....so look at yourself...who are you? are you someone that you want your little sister/brother to date? are you someone you want your kid to grow up to be? are you someone you would want to be friends with?
Are you living your life to make a change? are you living your life to be a good influence on those around you?
Are you making every moment count? because life is short and there are a lot of people watching you, learning from you......may I make a suggestion? You need to step up your game, you need to beable to look at yourself and say I like this person and I am living a good life a life that will make a difference.
Did you know that you are so important that you make a difference everyday?? There is always someone watching you, looking at you, looking to you. You are always influencing someone whether you know it or not it is true.....so look at yourself...who are you? are you someone that you want your little sister/brother to date? are you someone you want your kid to grow up to be? are you someone you would want to be friends with?
Are you living your life to make a change? are you living your life to be a good influence on those around you?
Are you making every moment count? because life is short and there are a lot of people watching you, learning from you......may I make a suggestion? You need to step up your game, you need to beable to look at yourself and say I like this person and I am living a good life a life that will make a difference.
God I'm Lonely
Have you ever sat in a room with a hundred people and felt all alone? Have you ever sat in a room with twenty people and felt so very alone? Have you ever sat in a room with 5 people and felt like you were so far away from everyone, so very alone? Have you ever sat in a room by yourself and wondered if there is anyone else in the world who ever feels as lonely as you do? If anyone else has ever been through what you have been?
That kind of loneliness is not hard to come by, and not easily answered...because the truth is no one has ever gone through what you have gone through, every moment of joy, every moment of pain, every smile, every tear they are all different. Not one life is the same, not one pain is the same, not one tear is the same, not one smile is the same, not one feeling of joy is the same.
Oh yes people can say that has happened to me, or has happened to someone I know, but the truth is they went through something similar but it truly has never happened to them or to someone they know...scary eh? Every situation is different, they don't have the same family as you, they don't have the same friends, they don't think the exact same way as you therefore what they are have gone through or are going through is not the same, they haven't been through it, they can sympathize, or celebrate with you but can never fully understand.....you are alone in a room of a hundred people, you are alone in a room of twenty people, you are alone in a room of five people and when you sit alone and think about it, no one has ever felt exactly the same as you, no one has ever been down the exact, exact path as you..maybe a very similar one but not the same..it is lonely...or is it??
Are you alone? Think about it..because really you aren't, there is this magnificent God who walks along side of you smiling at the things that make you smile, and shedding tears for you before the tears even come close to burning in your eyes...and on top of that in case that isn't enough or you can't see that He has placed some wonderful friends/people around you, who may never exactly know how you are feeling but they care deeply...Just know that...know that you are never ever ever alone.
And know that in this feeling of being so far away, so alone, so bored, so scared of sharing your loneliness or the things that are making you feel alone, you aren't really alone...and this I have to remind myself of constantly.
That kind of loneliness is not hard to come by, and not easily answered...because the truth is no one has ever gone through what you have gone through, every moment of joy, every moment of pain, every smile, every tear they are all different. Not one life is the same, not one pain is the same, not one tear is the same, not one smile is the same, not one feeling of joy is the same.
Oh yes people can say that has happened to me, or has happened to someone I know, but the truth is they went through something similar but it truly has never happened to them or to someone they know...scary eh? Every situation is different, they don't have the same family as you, they don't have the same friends, they don't think the exact same way as you therefore what they are have gone through or are going through is not the same, they haven't been through it, they can sympathize, or celebrate with you but can never fully understand.....you are alone in a room of a hundred people, you are alone in a room of twenty people, you are alone in a room of five people and when you sit alone and think about it, no one has ever felt exactly the same as you, no one has ever been down the exact, exact path as you..maybe a very similar one but not the same..it is lonely...or is it??
Are you alone? Think about it..because really you aren't, there is this magnificent God who walks along side of you smiling at the things that make you smile, and shedding tears for you before the tears even come close to burning in your eyes...and on top of that in case that isn't enough or you can't see that He has placed some wonderful friends/people around you, who may never exactly know how you are feeling but they care deeply...Just know that...know that you are never ever ever alone.
And know that in this feeling of being so far away, so alone, so bored, so scared of sharing your loneliness or the things that are making you feel alone, you aren't really alone...and this I have to remind myself of constantly.
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